Hello Linda,
You must promise me that you will stop thinking that your "Bending my
ear" or"whining" or being a wimp or any of the myriad things we tell
ourselves when we feel like you do.
You are not bending my ears at all, quite the reverse actually, you
have provided not only me, but anyone else that reads your post,
about the availability of the covers for the patches. If you call
that ear bending or whining, then PLEASE DO MORE OF IT!!!
I can relate to how you felt about your diagnosis of tyour disk
problem, I was in exactly the same situation, except my disc were in
my neck, the cervical spine area as opposed to yours, in the lumbar
region. Sometime after I had the very dangerous and only partially
successful surgery on my spine, I realised I had been delighted when
I got my diagnosis, I had phoned my wife and I was laughing with
delight and joy.
Then suddenly I realised how stupid I had been, I was happy to be
told I might become paralysed from the neck down if they didn't
operate there and then! That's carazy thinking, and from that moment
on I swore I would not allow doctors to talk down to me ever again.
There is no doubt, it was hard to do in the beginning, but each time
I took control of the situation with a doctor, it felt good and itm
made the next time easier. But it's easier if you have help and
support, so you should find the information you need on the site or
elswhere on the internet, such as the sites at the end of the links
on the site to famous hospitals and PRINT out the information,
especially the name of the hospital and hand it to the doctor when
you see him/her. Take it from me, no doctor will dare contradict what
these famous hospitals are saying, and if your saying the same, then
they can't tell you your wrong!!!
Try it and see for yourself. It will give you confidence in all parts
of your life. And if you can get your husband to read the sites
listed on this site, then he will better understand the terrible pain
and suffering you have.
He is like all of our spouses and family and friends, he has not had
the problems himself, YET. That's what most people don't realise
about this disease, it hits all sorts of people, young and old alike,
drinkers and non drinkers, and it doesn't matter which of those you
are, it still hurts the very same.
You seem to me to be a very confident person but I get the impression
that you don't realise just how strong you really are. And you have
far more confidence than you believe also.
You impressed me with your evaluation of your mother in law, and
those just like her we all meet in life. Your attitude to her and
your approach to life is very mature and well grounded.
I imagine you would make a wonderful friend to have close by, someone
that can be depended on, but you may do too much and end up
being "put upon" more than relied on. Please watch out for this, it
can become very tiring on you, especially if your having a rough time
personally.
Linda, you have many, many strengths, and I'm sure you have enormous
skills too, but one of the things I admire most in you, and in people
generally, is your ability to accept the things you can't change or
alter and to simply get on with life and leave the fools to fend and
play with themselves. Your a survivor, and a very nice one to know
too, I consider myself priviledged to know you, even in this long
distance way. Thank you for your participation in posts I make and
please continue to do so, I greatly enjoy them.
One thing I meant to ask you, apart from the problems with the
adhesive, did you find the patches helped your pain? If the patches
are a help to you, in that you don't have to take "millions" (!Lol)
of pills, perhaps you will mention the TRANSTECH ones to your doctor,
her may just be able to arrange a smaple pack for you to try. Yhois
is something else that very many patient never think to do, asking
the doctor that's prescribing something new as an experiment
basically, to give them some smaples, say 3 days worth, before they
pay out large amounts of money on something that will not perhaps
suit them.
God bless you Linda, and the very best of luck when you see this pain
doctor, and if you will, please let me, or all of us actually, how
you got on, and try to bring us something to celebrate with you, like
making this person listen to you and do what you want.
Pat